I mentioned last time that I was working on not yelling. I came across this Orange Rhino site and her 365 Day No Yelling Challenge. I started it. With great confidence and wild abandon. It went great for a few days and then I had an awful yelling feeling defeated kind of day. And it was really hard to get back to feeling like this was something I could do. To actually grasp the joy.
Here’re the things I’ve noticed while taking this challenge:
1. Just beginning is hard enough.
2. It’s worth it.
3. 365 days is a very long time. And when you have 3 or 4 days of success behind you and then you fail, it’s hard to get back up and begin at zero.
4. I realized I needed a smaller goal. A much smaller goal. Like the next few hours. Or the hardest times of the day. Or the next 5 minutes.
5. This is a lifestyle change. I can’t expect perfection from me from the get-go.
6. I have to have patience, mercy, and grace with myself.
7. I have to keep getting back up.
8. It’s not just about volume. It’s about learning joy. Choosing joy. Choosing to smile in the face of lots of noise, permanent markers, willful disobedience, accidents galore and constant interruptions. It’s about being purposeful and joyful.
9. Just being aware of my frustration triggers and trying is progress.
10. Friends who understand, who share successes and failures, who are honest and cheering and kind and funny are invaluable. So we’ve begun a private group on Facebook for just that purpose. If you’d like to be a part of that support group please private message me on fb and I’ll add you.
Pray for me and I’ll pray for you. Together we can embrace the fruit of the spirit, choose joy, and speak life to our children. Even when we’re frustrated and at our limit. We can catch the elusive. We can grasp peace and calm. We can learn meekness. We can do this.